Sex and the Rat Race
September 8th, 2007I was at a bar last night with two friends from work. We started talking about sex and it included sexual frequency. One of them was a woman, and she had a great body. If I were her hubby, I’d be all over her.
But she said something disturbing. They only do it once every two weeks. They’re so caught up in the rat race that they don’t have time for sex.
Pardon the pun, but screw that! I got a friend of mine who’s trying to get me a job in San Francisco proper. I’d be making about $30k more than I’m making now. However, I’ll have to commute, which would limit time with Mrs. Z and Junior, and that’s especially important because I’m the person who helps Junior with his homework.
I’m so un-Yuppie. I don’t get it. I have no need to have a nice car. A house is a house, as long as it’s not falling apart and it’s not in a neighborhood where you hear gunshots and loud rap bass at two in the morning. I wear hand me downs and cheap shoes. I don’t own a suit. I get my ties from Target, and they usually have cartoon characters on them.
I can’t imagine having sex once every two weeks and being married. Too tired for sex? Well, take a job that’s less stressful. And stop having to impress other people with material things. Start appreciating what you have. No wonder so many Californians get divorced. They’re so caught up in the rat race, that they place money above sex. I think they have a screw loose.
Damn, its hurts to write this but my wife is a lot like your female friend. If an activity can in any way be associated with the Rat Race she is a part of it. With all the drawbacks and ills connected to it. Yeah, sex as well and it drives me crazy.
Beach - That’s a shame. Screw the rat race. I’d rather be well off enough to take care of things and have the sex than rich and no sex. I hope she doesn’t look back with too much regrets.
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That happens. I know a lot of females that the male is the one who stops asking for sex, because they’re in the rat race and the woman is not, and she wants sex and that’s when they start stepping out.
I get more sex than any balding, vision impaired, 49 yr old deserves. I can’t imagine going two weeks without sex. Is something wrong with me that I need to see a doctor about?
You’ve got your priorities straight, my friend!
The yuppie life is a vicious cycle. The more you have, the more hours you work. Then you have to hire people to do EVERYTHING for you: yard work, daycare, cooking…. THEN, they have to work MORE to pay for all those services!
We know yuppie couples that hire people to teach their kids to skate, swim, camp, play soccer, throw a ball, even HOMEWORK! Why have kids if you don’t have the time to ENJOY them?
Can you tell that this is a very touchy subject with me?
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Kate - Believe me, I know it goes both ways. Putting money above sex in my opinion is an example of someone having their priorities out of whack.
Neal - You have your priorities in the right place, and a good wife, my friend.
Tshsmom - Definitely a touchy subject. Something I’d love to hear you rant about, hint, hint.
Ouch. This is a subject I dont normally talk about but the hours Jeff works doesnt stop us. Its his physical condition when he comes home. LOL.. His back hurts or something and it stops us. Its always tomorrow with us and yes sometiems we do go two weeks because he hurt himself at work. I mean having his physical job at work, does not help. But he tries to make up in many other ways. But I do agree with Tshsmom here. I have ranted about the little boy down the street about he is being raised but it still makes you wonder why she had him and now that her older son is back.
it’s not just california that’s caught up, let me tell you…i’ve had this conversation with mr lime more than once. sigh…
When my husband and I went to premarital counseling, our pastor basically said that sex is the barometer of a couple’s relationship. I was surprised to hear that from him, given that we were not married at the time. However, he is a very pragmatic guy and I’ve come to value his advice and opinions. Sexual frequency (and quality) is something to pay attention to - I definitely agree with you on that.
Your comments are okay but you prefaced by saying “with a body like hers”. Thankfully my husband and I know that good sex is state of mind and not bodies. I’d hate to think these old, wrinkled shells would determine our sex life. If more people could get off the great bod kick, there would be lots more sex going on in this world. It just gets better and better!
Tweety - Both Mrs. Z and I on different occasions have been too tired for it. But I definitely was more to blame. I was in the rat race and even not including sex, just was not spending enough time with Mrs. Z & Junior. She hinted and hinted, and I finally figured out that there’s more important things than money.
Lime - After seeing some of your HNTs, I think Mr. Lime needs new glasses.
Notta - Yes. It’s definitely a barometer. I was afraid of saying that, but since your pastor/counselor did, that gives it more merit. They’d know these things better than I would.
Granny - Just turn the lights off and let your imagination do the rest. My co-worker’s a decade my senior and yes, has crow’s feet and I’m sure sags plenty when nekkid, but when you grow together, I completely agree with you, it’s cerebral. And you can bet we’d still have sex with plenty of frequency in our retirement.
I have to say I dont think Jeff’s in the rat race its just that his run is the longest compared to the others and no one seems to want to help him when he gets back into town and a few times tires have fallen on him so he gets hurt and its hard to do the job at home when your hurt. LOL… But Jeff finds time to spend with us when he comes home. Like last night he came home at a decent time from work and we ate supper and played two games of Parchese with Kora. She is just learning. But she had so much fun and Bri sat on my lap while playing. Sometimes I will let her roll my dice for me.
Tweety - Sounds like he has a work ethic and is picking up a lot of the work that his slacking co-workers should be doing.
Never played Parchese. But I’ll play boardgames and card games all night sometimes. The latest game I’ve been playing that I like is that Pirates game.
The two have nothing (potentially) to do with one another. People don’t have sex because of a lot of reasons. People are in the “rat race” because of a lot of reasons. Sometimes they’re related, sometimes not. Some people who are competitive and driven and do well in the race, and then apply the same mentality to their sex life. Some do not. Making this connection to me is like saying that the stress of driving makes you wash your car less often.
Badman - No, they’re not. However, this was a case where they were.
And yes, the rat race in this area (you should know) interferes with peoples’ sex lives. People are so caught up in it here that they forget what’s really important.
Notta and you are right, ZS. Not sure it really ever has to do with work, headaches, etc…..